I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

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Look, I don’t really understand otherkin either, but people need to stop harassing these guys. I don’t think I’ve ever actually seen a community so flooded with trolls trying to mock them, hurt them, and make them look bad. They aren’t hurting anyone, they aren’t claiming to be oppressed, (that’s trolls) just let them do their thing ok?

No community could possibly deserve this level of harassment.


just adding these tags from other reblogs ‘cause I thought they were important

summed up if you hate and bully otherkin, you’re a fucking disgusting ableist human being and you should really be ashamed of yourselves

is being an otherkin a disability?

i agree that they dont deserve to be harassed, i can see ableism being used against disabled otherkin, but i dont understand how ableism is the root of the problem here

I’m not qualified to speak on the issue, but, as I understand it, it’s because ableism also covers atypical neurotypes and psychological profiles? I could be wrong, though.




when u dont know if ur ocs backstory is really cliched or not




New Ask Meme: Send me music that you think describes my aesthetic


I saw a few asks that say “describe my aesthetic” so this one takes a bit more creativity.

Whether it’s the lyrics or just the over all sound, send me a song that you think fits my “aesthetic”


Sparring buddies (ノ゜∇゜)ノ




We dare you to say we don’t live in a rape culture.

Amazingly, not The Onion:

“[W]e now have young men telling Bloomberg News that they basically view their female peers as rape bombs just waiting to explode and ruin their lives.”


Just a disclaimer: I'm Filipina, so while I understand the posts regarding white privileged people, I still wonder if it's a really effective agenda. I get that, unless you are straight and white in the real world, hardly anyone will give you as much importance (this is VERY prevalent in our country) but I just...I'm just conflicted. Why are we fighting fire with fire in the first place? Doesn't that make us the same as them? :O Just curious!


yo, fellow Pin@y! I probably can’t answer you as eloquently as you hoped, but here are a few things I kinda get from here:

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do you happen to have a handy dandy guide for making Cucumber Quest OCs?